Family dynamics

Family has always been what holidays have been about for me. My favorite holiday as a kid was Thanksgiving because I loved that I could pile my plate with creamy, buttery mashed potatoes and no one would interfere. Christmas was great because we always had bacon and pancakes for breakfast, just about the only time my dad would ever cook breakfast for us. Easter brought chocolate eggs hidden around the house by my father, with my sisters and I inevitably finding some months later, in a place that only my dad could reach.

Although they are scattered now, my family has always been a central unifying theme of my life. I lived a pretty typical American childhood with two loving parents and two older sisters. Josephine Baker and her Rainbow Tribe were about as far away from my childhood as you can get. Gimlet Media’s The Nod examines the incredible, nuanced story of Josephine Baker and her quest towards building a diverse family in the 1950s and 1960s. This story is wild and deserves a listen. Check it out here.


There’s a lot of red around today.

So I don’t normally go all out on Valentines Day. But all of my favorite podcasts are putting out Valentines episodes and I wanted to celebrate too! I know everyone and their mother knows about This American Life, Ira Glass is one of the most well known celebrities on the radio. But the last story on this episode made me laugh out loud. Take a listen here.


One of my absolute favorite parts of the holiday season is the food. Especially the holiday treats. I personally love baking so any excuse to pull out my favorite recipes and cook for friends and family is good with me.  This is one of my recent favorite recipes.

Thanks to Holly and Tracy, I’ve learned just a little more about the history of some of the treats we love around the holidays.

Check out the episode here.

Hug a loved one.

It’s been a minute. Sorry guys. Thanksgiving and driving cross country has been stressful and kept all of my attention. It was just me and my cat driving cross country so I didn’t talk to many humans. Podcasts were my best friend.

In case you’ve been living under a rock, tis the season. Again. A time for those lucky enough to be close to their families to travel and be with them. If you are one of those lucky people who don’t get blue around the holiday, I urge you – reach out to someone you love just to check in. The holidays put a lot of pressure on people, especially those with mental illness. You never know how much a simple check in text or phone call will do.

Anyway, small digression over.

I personally love stories of simple acts of kindness, especially when those are directed towards strangers. Like paying for the bill of the person behind you in the drive thru coffee shop. Even just leaving anonymous notes of encouragement around for others to find and smile. This is perhaps why Zoe Freedman Coleman’s story at the Raven Narratives made me openly weep. During this time of year I am incredibly grateful to have the option to travel to see my family. Because some people can’t. Some people don’t even know where their loved ones are.

Listen to this beautiful story here

Dred Scott v. Sandford

I had no idea. No idea how much being born white in this country really meant. Maybe it’s because I grew up in one of the whitest states in the nation. I was always ensconced in this world where no one was different than I was. I was concerned with my own little world; if I would ever get a boyfriend, would my field hockey team win the state finals, would I get into the college of my choice. It wasn’t until my senior year of high school that I started to realize that the world was not all honky dory. It was that year that I found what I loved to study: environmental science. In this course, we brushed on environmental justice (which, surprisingly, the EPA still has a web page on).

It was just the beginning of my slow realization of all that people of color throughout the country have been facing for generations. Because white people are awful. We came to this country, took and conquered where we saw fit, without any regard for native peoples or the black people we brought here to enslave. It makes me sick to my stomach to think that my ancestors may have thought it perfectly acceptable to buy and own and sell other human beings.

So I’m on a path of learning. Learning how privileged being white actually is. Learning how systemic racism is part of each and every facet of our society.  I am learning from the Black Lives Matter movement. I am learning from leaders such as Shaun King and DeRay McKesson. And I realize that I have a long way to go but I’m trying to be more like Greg Popovich.

The podcast that inspired this post is from a couple of weeks ago. It’s from WNYC Studios More Perfect. This episode specifically deals with the Dred Scott case. Many people you ask may know the name Dred Scott but have no idea what the supreme court ended up ruling. But the realities of the Chief Justice Robert Brooke Taney ruling that black men “had no rights which the white man was bound to respect” still seep into every corner of our society today. And we need to work to fix that.

Listen to the full episode here.

I wonder…

‘I wonder what the first person who saw a narwhal was thinking?’ ‘How did Tim Riggins, a sophomore, become such close friends with Jason Street, a senior, in Friday Night Lights?’  ‘What would some famous person think if they lived my boring, ordinary life?’ ‘I wonder if Stephen King was ever afraid that he would run out of story ideas?’ These are just some of the random thoughts that have popped into my head over the last week.

I spent a LOT of time on long car rides as a kid and I had a lot of time to think. So that’s what I did. Sitting in the middle seat of my mom’s purple Plymouth Voyager van heading from Maine to Florida I pondered the facts and figures of life. Seven year old Jaime wondered why some states required front license plates while others didn’t. Twelve year old Jaime wondered if dogs and cats could communicate with each other in a secret language. These long car rides spent entertaining myself spawned a life filled with random questions, most of which I would never actually ask anyone.

So when Gimlet Media came out with Every Little Thing I was thrilled. A deep dive into individual topics revealing something amazing about a topic that is seemingly ordinary is what I jumped on it. That’s my jam. But I’ll be honest. I am afraid of birds. I am aware of where they are when I’m outside and I inch away from them. The thought of going into a chicken coop to feed chickens makes me want to vomit a little bit. But when Flora Lichtman talked about the amazingness of flamingos I couldn’t help but be fascinated. So I hope you’ll enjoy it too. Take a listen to this episode of Every Little Thing and learn more about these weird birds and why Flora thinks that there should be a flamingo mascot.

Wait, what are we celebrating?

Happy Labor Day to the United States! Most people will celebrate this federal holiday as a long weekend that marks the unofficial end of the summer, a time to get together with friends and family before kids go back to school. My family, we used to go camping every Labor Day weekend at a beautiful lake. I even got my own tent. It was a one person, a green triangular thing that was abandoned (i.e. placed by the dumpster for disposal) in the state park I grew up in. The only thing wrong with it was a broken pole, which meant that I only had to be extra careful when it rained that nothing was touching the side of the tent so that I wouldn’t get all of my things wet.

To be honest, I never thought about the reason that we had the day off from school. I just accepted it and went camping with my family. It didn’t occur to me that Labor Day was there to celebrate the strides the labor movement achieved when working for worker’s rights in America. History likes to play up men’s role in the labor movement, often because men were the ones working outside of the home as breadwinners of the family. The ladies of the Stuff Mom Never Told You (SMNTY) podcast highlight some of the most badass women of the labor movement. This is a great podcast for when you’re stuck in traffic on your way home from the beach, on a hike through the woods drinking in the last of the summer air, or if you’re just at home, getting some cleaning done after your Labor Day guests leave.

Thank you to Emilie and Bridget for this wonderful episode!

Listen here.

Ain’t nobody got time for bra problems.

As a girl growing up in the 21st century United States, I always expected to wear a bra as a grown woman. As a pre-teen, I was counting down the days until I could wear a bra. I thought that I would finally be a grown up when that happened. Driving, dating boys, starting to work, all of these things were wrapped up together. Not gonna lie, it was a big deal when I got my first training bra. I definitely did not need it, but I was psyched. It was baby blue, stretchy, and there was nothing to it. It was essentially just extra fabric. God bless my mom for humoring me.

Now, my thoughts towards bras have drastically changed since then. After years of wearing them I’ve come to realize that bras are a largely pointless article of clothing that I’m expected to wear simply because I identify as female. A lot of the time bras are uncomfortable, cause unfortunate indentation lines, and are the first thing I take off when I get home from work. Ugh sorry. Bra rant over.

As much as I have problems with this particular article of clothing, I had no idea how far back women were actually wearing bras. On this episode of the Braless podcast, host Erin Whitehead and Tawny Platis, host of the Dirty Bits podcast, dive into the Compressive History of the Bra. Take a listen and learn more than you’ve ever known about that little piece of clothing some of us wear nearly every day. Listen here.

The elephant in the classroom.

Student loan debt. It’s awkward to talk about. Personally I do have student loan debt. It’s something I try not to think about too much in my daily life. I know it would bury my spirit if I thought about it all the time. I want to go back and smack my 18 year old self for choosing a private college rather than a public university or state school. It’s one of the greatest regrets I have in my life so far. But I’m lucky, my parents and scholarships contributed to college, so I was able to graduate with significantly less debt than I would have. But it’s still something looming over my head as I try to make decisions about my life.

But I’m not alone. 44.2 million people in the United States have student loan debt. Death, Sex, and Money’s  Anna Sale talks to some of those that have student loan debt and how it  is influencing life choices. Having $20,000, $50,000, $100,000 in student loan debt can impact how you choose to live your life. When and if you have children, buy a house, even what job you hold are just some of the things that can be changed by the amount of debt you have.

Thank you to Anna and the rest of the Death, Sex, Money team for reminding us all that we’re not alone in the struggle with student loan debt. They even created a tool that allows you to find out where you fit in the student debt landscape.

Listen to both part 1 and 2 here.